thoughts from thirty
I'm about to turn thirty-one. I'm in my new apartment, on my expensive custom couch, with my newly adopted cat. Crying.
Thirty was... not a great year.
It was filled with heartbreak and loss. New beginnings and a lot of endings.
I started a new position at work. I lost a lot of friends. I made mistakes. I travelled alone for the first time. Through all of it, I gained new wisdom. Now I'm reflecting and am left with this:
Thoughts from thirty:
Unsolicited advice can be more harmful than helpful. I believe we are all guilty of this. I had a few moments this year where I had some people almost tell me what they think I should do, and though well intentioned, actually hurt my feelings more than helped me feel better.
Nick Jonas is the ideal man. Short king. Athletic. Family man. He's funny but wouldn't be funnier than me.
No one will understand your loneliness except for you. It's what makes it so difficult, why it feels even more isolating.
Some people make time for you and have time for you. Learn the difference. Those who make time for you are the ones who value your friendship.
The actions of others are usually more truthful than their words. If there's a disconnect, trust their actions.
Money will come and go. As long as you're responsible, enjoy your life.
You feel better when you don't oversleep, but sometimes you need to.
Carrie Bradshaw made terrible decisions about guys. She hurt herself and others constantly. But she always got her column out. Writing requires experiences — good and bad.
Terry Fox is a national hero who isn't spoken about enough.
Don't wait for friends to go to see shows, movies, or travel. You'll end up not going. Go alone and meet friends along the way.
The Real Housewives are more than just women fighting on TV. It's an insight into social dynamics. So much can be unpacked on a socio-economical and racial level through those relationships. The way these women treat each other and the connections they have with their husbands and families. I would write a 20-page paper on this if I was still in school.
Change is difficult. Some changes are healthy and needed. Some are not.
People will cheat for a lot of reasons. They usually won't admit why.
Most people's perception of you is different from your own. If you're rooted in who you are, that perception does not matter.
Your worth is inherent and can't change regardless of circumstances or experiences.
Don't let yourself be the second choice. If a guy goes back to a girl he thought he had a chance with, she drops him, and he goes back to you…. He's using you.
In the Sims 4, when you make your sim work hard every day, they get tense. The same thing happens to us. Learning to create balance and take time for yourself is the best way to keep working hard without burning out. It's hard, but it is possible.